You’re All Invited
De Mortuis Nil Nisi Bonum
My commentary here will likely piss some people off because it will come across as insensitive to those dealing with death. Please. Get over yourself. These are nameless, faceless people who will never read a word of this. What follows is a fair, reasonable, and thoroughly harmless observation about how religion makes otherwise intelligent people talk themselves into patently stupid beliefs in order to cope. This has less to do with the people speaking and more to do with the mechanism which makes them say what they do. At any rate, if you disagree, please let me know specifically who is harmed and the manner in which this harm is brought to them. Be specific and concrete or shut up and leave.
From a daughter’s eulogy of her mother, circa 1998.
This comes as a second-hand (but trusted) personal account from someone who attended the funeral. The woman who passed away was on all accounts a wonderful, kind, and loving human being – as is her family to this day. At time of her death, she and her daughter were planning the daughter’s wedding. Because of the size of her and her fiancée’s family, as well as their enormous network of friends and other contacts, attendance at the wedding would have numbered into the hundreds.
Long story short, many people were not invited due to capacity limitations.
What She Said [Paraphrased]
“Mom and I wanted to invite all of you to the wedding but for many reasons we couldn’t – and it bothered her terribly. I think this was her way of gathering us all together.”
What She Meant
“I cannot accept the fact that my mother is dead and I’m struggling to find some meaning in it.”
Utterance of Obfuscating Denial